I came across this amazing post online recently, and it really stuck with me. The person sharing their journey talked about how they spent 4 years battling social anxiety and building their self-esteem. What they shared was so relatable and full of real, actionable tips that I felt like it was worth passing along. If you’re someone who’s struggled with social anxiety or just wants to feel more confident, these 3 tips could make a huge difference for you. Here’s what I found:
It took me 4 years to get over my social anxiety and build my self-esteem, and now I want to share 3 tips that can help you get there faster:
Since I was 6, I struggled with social situations. I was bullied in school, and every day I dreaded going there. It wasn’t just the mean comments; they would also physically hurt me. This made me start hating people, even though deep down, all I really wanted was to feel loved and connected. At 19, I decided I had to change. I promised myself I would find love and happiness, and finally overcome my social anxiety.
Now, 4 years later, I’m living a life full of amazing people who love and support me. I never thought someone like me could have this life, but here I am. It wasn’t luck—it took a lot of hard work and self-reflection. And it was all worth it. I learned so much about myself. I can’t explain everything in one post, but here are 3 things that helped me turn my life around and beat my social anxiety:
1. You can’t avoid feeling scared
We all have fears. But it’s not the situations themselves that scare us—it’s the feelings that come with them. We fear the sweaty palms, the fast heartbeat, the racing thoughts. But here’s the thing: it’s okay to feel all of that. Accept that you’re scared, and give yourself permission to feel it. Once you’re no longer afraid of those feelings, dealing with social anxiety becomes a lot easier.
2. Get rejected—over and over
Let’s be real. We’re all afraid of rejection. We worry that others will think we’re weird, unattractive, or uninteresting. But here’s a tough truth: you WILL face rejection. Once you decide to step out and talk to more people, rejection is bound to happen. But that’s a good thing. It shows you that other people’s opinions don’t define your life. What’s worse: living with anxiety forever or facing rejection and knowing you pushed through it anyway?
3. What’s really causing your anxiety?
Anxiety might seem like this huge, unstoppable force. But in reality, it’s trying to protect you. It wants to keep you safe because, in the past, you’ve been hurt by others. You’re afraid of feeling that pain again. If you see your anxiety as a friend that’s trying to help you, it becomes easier to understand. To really figure out what’s causing your anxiety, you may need help from a professional like a coach, therapist, or hypnotherapist. Once you know what’s truly behind your anxiety, it stops feeling like this monster, and overcoming it gets much easier.
To wrap things up, overcoming social anxiety isn’t an overnight thing—it takes time and effort. But with the right mindset and a willingness to face your fears, it’s totally possible. These tips have worked for me, and I hope they can help you too. Remember, it’s okay to be scared, it’s okay to get rejected, and it’s okay to take things one step at a time. The most important thing is that you keep going, and in time, you’ll see just how much you can grow and change. Keep pushing, and you’ll get there!
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